"Why do I keep reacting this way... even when I know better?"
This is where the theory finally becomes real
9-10 am CST
Live Zoom + Replays
Led by Jill Lillard, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor + Gottman Certified Therapist
They just don’t understand why, in real moments, they still react the way they do.
Like you’re living parallel lives under the same roof — close in proximity but miles apart
It's about having a process you can return to
when life gets hard.
You’re stuck because something beneath the surface hasn’t been clearly seen yet.
But when you feel hurt, dismissed, overwhelmed, or disappointed, it’s not always clear what those ideas look like in real time.
This workshop introduces a simple, biblically grounded process I call
The Heart Scan Process.
This is what it starts to look like in real life.
This isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you— so you can respond differently when it matters.
As you begin using the Heart Scan, you’ll notice:
- You catch yourself before the moment becomes a conversation you’ll regret
- You finally understand what’s been driving the same patterns in your marriage — and it’s not what you thought
- You stop replaying conversations and start knowing what to do differently next time
- You show up differently with your husband — not perfect, but present
- You feel less like you’re managing your marriage and more like you’re actually in it
- You take your next step even when the feelings haven’t caught up yet —
This is what it looks like to move forward with clarity.
“The feelings work was uncomfortable in the best way. It helped me understand why I do what I do instead of just trying to fix it.”
“I’ve always thought emotions were something to manage or minimize. This workshop showed me how they actually point to what’s going on beneath the surface.”
"Jill's workshop was exactly what I needed and what I've been looking for. The class was well structured, I felt like I was visiting with my own personal counselor, and the worksheet provided was extremely helpful. I would have paid so much more for this program!"
The Heart Scan is a simple, four-part process you’ll learn and practice throughout the workshop.
It’s something you can return to anytime life gets hard—not just something you understand once.
Here’s how the process works:
EXPOSE This is where we slow down and bring awareness to what’s actually happening inside you—your thoughts, emotions, and reactions—without judgment.
RENEW Once you can see what’s going on, we explore new ways of understanding your situation through truth, perspective, and Scripture—without forcing yourself into “better” thoughts.
ENGAGE This step helps you stay present with your emotions and invite God into the middle of your experience- instead of pushing feelings aside or trying to resolve them too quickly.
PRESS ON Finally, you take intentional, faithful action—even when clarity feels incomplete, and your emotions are still catching up.
Most approaches focus on one part of the problem.
Some focus on your thinking.
Some focus on your emotions.
Some focus on your faith.
But when those stay separate, it’s hard to know what to do in real moments.
The Heart Scan brings all three together.
You’re not asked to override your emotions with truth. And you’re not left sitting in your feelings without direction.
You learn how to understand what your emotions are pointing to,
engage God honestly in the middle of them,
and move forward with intention.
- You have a relationship with Jesus, but still find yourself reacting in ways you don’t fully understand.
- You’ve tried praying, reframing, or talking things through- and the same patterns keep showing up.
- You feel stuck between what you know and how you actually respond in the moment.
- You want a way to engage God honestly in the middle of real life, not just once things feel resolved.
You’re not waiting to feel better before you act.
You’re learning how to act faithfully
while you’re still feeling what you feel.
“I loved the live coaching. It made it easy to stay engaged. Watching others get coached helped me see things objectively and apply the tools to my own life.”
“Every piece of your content is solid—practical, thorough, and grounded in the truth of the gospel. That’s what makes it so powerful and life-changing.”
“Having a space to be honest and vulnerable reminded me that what we struggle with as Christians is common—and that we’re not alone.”
In five days, you’ll learn the Heart Scan Process and use it on a real situation—
so you leave with more than insight. You leave with a way forward.
- Five live one-hour sessions (M-F)
- Teaching and live coaching in every call
- Replay access if you can’t attend live
- Lifetime access to the recordings
Application
- A guided workbook that walks you through the process
- Simple daily exercises to help you apply what you learn
- Scriptures woven throughout the teaching
It comes from clarity, presence, and practice.
“This tool has changed how I think. I’ve been raving about it and sharing new insights with my family because it keeps giving me clarity I didn’t have before.”
“I didn’t realize how much I was avoiding my feelings until we walked through that section. Learning how to stay with them is changing how I respond in my marriage and in my faith.”
“I can honestly say the Heart Scan will serve me for the rest of my life. I’m already seeing real changes in how I show up in my relationships.”
You don’t need to feel ready to come
You don’t need to feel clear, calm, or regulated to benefit from this workshop.
“The part of the workshop on feelings helped me slow down instead of reacting. I could finally see what was happening inside me without shutting down or spiraling.”
“I love how the Heart Scan reveals your thoughts and how they influence your life. It showed me that change starts with honesty about what I’m really thinking.”
“I learned there’s more to living than just focusing on problems. When I shift my thoughts and actions, things actually begin to change for the better.”
ABOUT YOUR HOST
Hi, I am Jill.
For nearly 25 years, I’ve worked with women and couples as they navigate emotions, relationships, and faith—both in private practice and in coaching.
I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Gottman Certified Therapist, and the host of The Happiest Lives Podcast, where I teach practical, biblically grounded ways to grow in real life.
Over the years, I kept noticing the same pattern: Thoughtful, self-aware women—who loved God and genuinely wanted to grow—still felt stuck in how they reacted.
Not because they lacked faith. And not because they weren’t trying. But because they didn’t have a clear way to understand what was happening inside them—and respond differently in the moment.
That’s where the Heart Scan Process came from.
It’s shaped by years of counseling, coaching, Scripture, and real-life experience—designed to help you slow down, tell the truth about what’s happening inside you, engage God honestly in the middle of it, and move forward with clarity.
My role in this workshop isn’t to fix you or push you toward an outcome.
It’s to walk with you through this process so you can understand yourself more clearly and take your next step.
You don’t need to perform or prepare.
You just need a willingness to pay attention.
This work brings together:
- a biblical perspective
- brain science
- and a way to renew your mind without dismissing your feelings
With over 25 years of experience, Jill helps women understand what’s happening inside them, respond with clarity, and move forward in their relationships with greater steadiness.
- How much time is required to participate?There are five 1-hour calls the week of the workshop.
You can also plan on 10-20 minutes of optional "grow-work" each day to help you practice what you are learning. - Is it true I can be refunded the $35 I pay to join?Yes! If you join my coaching program Clarity+Courage during this workshop, I will refund your fee for coming.
- What are the components of this program?Five 1-Hour Coaching Calls- There will be a one-hour live Zoom call with Jill once a day during the workshop week. On this call you can expect teaching and coaching as well as an opportunity to ask questions.
Printable Workbook- I love me a good workbook! You will get a pretty, printable, detailed workbook that gives you a place to take notes during the workshop, plus daily application assignments, a feelings list, and Heart Scan templates.
Replay Link- Inside my Happy Vault, this course will live on with replay links as well as a link to the workbook.
Opportunity to get refunded for the workshop if you decide to upgrade to Clarity+Courage. - When are the LIVE calls?Calls start at 7am PT| 8am MT| 9am CT| 10am ET
Calls are one hour
Replays are available for all calls. - Are there benefits for attending LIVE verses watching the replay?Yes, each day on the live call, I will give away one 30-day trial membership to Clarity+Courage. (5 total) You must attend live to be eligible.
Also, you can volunteer to receive direct coaching from Jill about your specific problem. Attending live does not mean you have to be coached, but it is an option. - How does group coaching work?This is where concepts turn into change.
During the live calls, you get to watch real coaching happen on real situations, and then apply what you’re seeing to your own life.
You do not have to volunteer to be coached. You can simply listen. Many people choose to do that and still get a lot of value.
If you are coached live, we focus on one specific situation you’re dealing with right now. Something concrete. We start where you are. You don’t need to explain everything or know where it’s going. I’ll direct the coaching. You only share what you’re comfortable sharing.
If you’re listening while someone else is being coached, this is what usually happens: you hear your own thoughts in someone else’s words. Something clicks. You get clarity without being in the hot seat. Many people say they get just as much from listening as they do from being coached directly.
You’re never required to share. You can stay muted, camera off, and just listen.
All calls are recorded and available for replay, so you can attend live or listen later when it fits your life.
Group coaching works because change happens when you see how someone else thinks, feels, and chooses differently—and realize you can do that too. - Do I have to have my camera on during the calls?No. Your camera does not have to be on.
That said, I do love seeing faces, and I like the workshop to feel personal and connected. If you’re comfortable having your camera on, I’d love to see you.
If you’d rather keep your camera off, that’s completely fine. You’re still fully welcome and included.
If there’s a lot of movement or distraction on camera, you may be asked to turn it off so the space stays focused for everyone.
When you’re not speaking, you can keep your microphone muted.
The goal is a space that feels both human and respectful—connection without pressure. - Is this therapy?No. This is coaching, not therapy.
That means we’re not diagnosing, treating mental health conditions, or processing trauma in a clinical way. We’re focused on helping you understand what’s happening for you right now, organize your thoughts and emotions, and choose intentional next steps.
That said, the work is thoughtful and emotionally informed. We slow things down. We pay attention to feelings. And we look at how your inner world is shaping how you’re showing up in your life and relationships.
If you’re currently in therapy, this can complement that work. If you’ve never been in therapy, you don’t need any prior experience to participate.
This is a space for clarity, insight, and forward movement—not diagnosis or treatment. - Is this faith-based?Yes. This workshop is rooted in a Christian worldview.
Scripture, prayer, and a biblical understanding of the heart and transformation shape how I teach and coach. That said, this isn’t a Bible study, and you won’t be asked to perform spiritually or say the “right” things.
The focus is on honest self-examination, emotional clarity, and learning how to engage with what’s actually happening inside you—while staying anchored in your faith.
If you’re a Christian who wants practical tools that integrate faith and emotional health, you’ll feel at home here. - How is this different from just listening to the podcast?The Happiest Lives Podcast gives you insight.
The workshop gives you application.
In the workshop, you don’t just hear concepts—you watch them being used in real time on real situations. You see how someone takes a messy, emotional experience and slows it down, organizes it, and chooses a next step.
The live coaching, repetition over five days, and opportunity to apply the process to your own life are what turn awareness into change.
If the podcast helps you understand, the workshop helps you practice. - Why is this workshop so inexpensive?Because I want as many people as possible to experience this work.
This workshop is intentionally priced at $35 so it’s accessible and easy to say yes to. It gives you a real taste of how I teach and coach, not a watered-down version.
I will also be sharing an invitation to join my ongoing coaching program, Clarity + Courage, at the end of the week. That’s on purpose. The workshop is designed to help you experience the process, not just hear about it, and then decide if ongoing support would be helpful for you.
There’s no obligation to join anything beyond the workshop.
The value of this week isn’t in the price—it’s in the access. Five live calls. Real coaching. A repeatable process you can use long after the week is over.
If you come just for the workshop, you’ll leave with clarity and tools you can keep using. If you decide to continue, you’ll already know exactly what you’re saying yes to.
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Optional Add-on: Don't miss the perfect companion to this workshop... mailed to your home!
The Happiest Lives 2-month Beautiful Spiral Bound journal! Only $34
• 60 Thought Capturing Sheets to process thoughts and emotions.
•60 Heart Scan Templates to look at any problem with clarity.
• 60 Daily Scripture & Prayer Pages for turning toward the Lord.
• 60 Idea & Dream Download Pages to inspire and gain insights.
• 60 Quick Day Planning Sheets for organizing your day.
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